Dávid Asztalos

Mediation has a demonstrably high success rate—especially when both partners take part. It doesn’t always mean reconciliation, but it often clears up misunderstandings, brings unspoken tensions to the surface, and leads to agreements both can accept. International studies suggest that 60–80% of family and couples mediations end with an agreement ^[1][2]. And even when no final agreement is reached, many people say that mediation helped them gain clarity, understand one another more deeply, or move closer to a solution.

The myth of the “perfect” relationship suggests that strong couples should manage without outside help. I believe, however, that asking for help is not a weakness but a brave, intentional step toward a solution.

Come on your own! I’m sure they want a solution too — you might just be out of sync in timing. Mediation can’t be forced, but if it helps you, there’s a good chance they’ll join after a few sessions.

They won’t find out. Besides, the loudest critics of your relationship will be the least helpful in saving it. What your life together is like is solely your responsibility — and accordingly, it’s entirely up to you what tools you choose to use to improve it.

Things can get worse on their own. With mediation, you have much more control, it’s easier to prevent escalation, and you’re more likely to find solutions that work for both of you.

That’s true. Since COVID, hourly rates for support professionals have risen sharply. With my below-average fees and volunteer work, I can offer help with the thought that mediation is, overall, cheaper and less painful than a divorce or breakup.

Therapy delves deeper into the patterns behind your behavior and communication. Mediation is more practical, focusing on the present and near future rather than the past.